Establishing Priorities Making Decisions

What are the priorities in your life?

As a new season approaches, are you ready to take up the new challenges and opportunities that will come your way? Will you recognize new opportunities? Will you place them into the too hard basket? Will you excuse yourself from the challenge? Will you allow others or circumstances dictate your life or will you take control?

There is no time like the present to live a conscious life. Living consciously is all about being aware. There are so many aspects to living; it is easy to be distracted into the realms of the mundane, the trivial and the sideshows. There are so many things that we have to do, we often forget about the things we really want to do.
Now is a good time to review or re-establish your priorities.

Create a priorities list

For most of us, we should have a list of four priorities. There are some extremely busy people who will have five priorities. There will be others, who need or wish to focus on a major issue, who will have two or three. This is your life so you decide.
Write down your priorities. Priorities may be family, health, fitness, play sport, home, garden, new car, promotion at work, new job, travel, friendship, new relationship, starting or expanding your business, starting or expanding a creative pursuit, taking time to rest and relax, join a group, expanding your spiritual awareness, education and training.

Give yourself some thinking time to work out your priorities. When you have decided what they are, write them down. Write them down and keep them with you or in a place where they can be seen. Living consciously is being aware of your priorities.
These priorities are your priorities for the next eight months. Let’s make this personal and give you the details of this process.

These are my priorities:
1. Family
2. Writing and publishing
3. House and garden
4. Health and fitness
5. Spiritual expansion

Making decisions

When you have established your priorities, the next step is to follow the process of decision making. With each decision you make, you determine if that activity fits into your priorities. If the activity fits into one of your priorities then the answer is yes, you will participate. If the activity does not fit into one of your priorities then the answer is no, you will not participate.

Of course, there are many daily chores and activities that must be done. For example, I shall still be washing the dishes, washing the clothes, teaching drama, joining in the grocery shopping, cooking porridge and various other things. I am sure your list is much more extensive. However, when these chores have been done or the many times between these activities, that is when the priority list comes into focus. As a personal example; do I watch television or write? This decision has already been made; go to the computer and write. For lunch, should I have a pie or sushi? Once again the decision is easy for it has already been made. I go with the healthier food.

Priority Subsets

When you have established your priorities, your mind automatically begins to focus your attention on the things that need doing on your priority list. You then begin to establish a pattern or a goal. Let me use my list as an example. I have family as a priority. There are a number of activities or commitments that fall under this category. Every available Monday, we take the grandchildren to the Currumbin Sanctuary. Every available Saturday when Adam has the day with a carer, Robyn and I will go out and do something together. When Lily wants a swing, unless I have an emergency, I push Lily on the swing. It may be only for five minutes but that is a committment and a priority. Family is on my list.

Archetypal priorities

Examine your archetypes chart. See which archetype needs strengthening or which one is causing you challenges. Alternatively, examine your chart and decide which area of your life you wish to change or improve.
Work on 1 or 2 areas or archetypes only. Look at your archetypal energy. Examine the negative words and phrases and see which ones apply to you. Change these negative patterns of behaviour to positive patterns of behaviour. Stay aware. Identify when you speak or act in the negative and change immediately to the positive. This is living consciously. Listen to your self-talk. Be aware of your thoughts. Think about your actions and your decisions. Understand and control your emotions. With emotions especially, you need to understand the trigger that elicits a negative emotional response. Have you a plan B? If you vent your anger on your family or friends, maybe you need a plan B for the release of that anger. Go for a jog, a swim or some form of physical exertion. Stay with this archetype for a month and then evaluate your progress.

Personal characteristic priorities

Is there a personal characteristic or behaviour that you wish to change! Choose one and work on this for a month before you evaluate your progress. You may wish to be more out-going, less apologetic, calmer, more creative or any other personal trait. Work on a step-by-step plan of achievement. Take small steps and small challenges. If we return to those traits listed above; to be more out-going, join a group in an area that you are interested in or that you enjoy. To be less apologetic, do not say the word, “sorry” unless you have made a genuine mistake. So many people apologize for the most minor things or for something that has happened that they had no control over. To be calmer, remember to breathe, to smile, to focus on the beauty that surrounds you, sing, dance, meditate or spend some time on an activity that you enjoy and which relaxes you. Avoid or leave people or situations that causes you stress. If you have to be there or be around those people, step back a little and see the scene as a movie and you are playing a part. Be more creative, plan or begin a project, join a creative group, enroll in a course or get a friend to mentor you. Always remember, creativity is often in the eye of the beholder and practice makes perfect.